But what gives us a mission that we can really live together with?
“We want our lives to be worthwhile. This does not mean we need to achieve ‘great feats’ or become world famous. We just need to feel in place and do the right thing surrounded by the right people. It’s about finding out our mission.”
“Mission” sounds like something elevated, bright and world-changing. In my interpretation missions, just like human needs can either be deficit- or growth-based.
An example from my life is the first trip I’ve set out for: I had a mission in 2007: to reach the Baltic Sea from Hungary by bicycle (~1100 kms). Alone on the bike trip I was very busy riding over 100kms daily, finding free places to sleep, repairing the bike occasionally, staying dry and get food.
Having the rain waking you up next to the road in pitch dark will give you a very clear mission: find the closest dry spot where you can continue sleeping. Such fundamental missions take some time from all our lives: having food, water, sex, sleep, etc. But while in some environments this is the mission of life, in others this is more like a side-track or a “mission already completed” when you wake up daily in the morning.
Whenever I hear about “since my child’s born my life has a sense” I always think of this deficit-based mission: I guess having your child crying in pitch dark you don’t have a choice either.
Completing the bike trip and being back home found me in a new, difficult situation: there were no more kms to bike every day, there was a fridge full of stuff and the most I “had to” do was attending history classes at the university. All my deficit-based missions were solved at once. So there I was in need of finding growth-based missions.
I read once that many parents fall into depression when their children leave home. I can understand them completely.
So the question is: how do you find growth-based missions?
The best way to find your, individual mission is to try to let go all external advice (except this one, of course!).
Think of what you’d like to do when you are alone in a white room with unlimited power.
1, order the best food of the world
2, some extra caviar too
3, sleep for a week and a half
4, make a 16some with some good-looking porn stars
5, spend more time with your friends and family
6, try all the drugs
7, turn back time so you don’t feel guilt after all this
… OKAY. You are after all these things that you always wanted to try but you didn’t for some reason. These are deficit-based needs. What’s with your growth needs now?
What do you think of, wish, wanna do when you are alone and no one bothers you?
For me it is:
1, I love to think and philosophize on the connection between individual and society
2, I love to take in a lot of art: books, movies, paintings, architecture, etc.
Take a moment to think about it. Write it down!
I said take a moment!
Have you written it down?
Don’t just scroll down!
Have you written it down?
Otherwise you can not read the rest!
These points are the ones where you can start putting together your mission. If you love building things try being and architect, construction worker or something on this line. After build a new Taj Mahal to your love or build a homeless shelter or whatever suits your way of thinking, mentality and habit.
The difficult thing about having YOUR OWN MISSION is that every motivated person, institution and organisation has plans with you. Shortly: everybody knows what’s best for you. More on this here.
The Catholic church would like you to act like they want and that you give them money.
Your government would like you to obey the laws and pay a lot of taxes.
I would like you to be a more independent thinker that gets to have his own mission.
So of course I have no idea what is your mission.
But I can say a couple words about mine.
I would like to self-develop and keep learning life-long so I can more effectively change the world.
I would like to give back because I’ve received so much more than most.
I would like all people to understand that human beings they are valuable and their actions matter. And that all people do have chances even when it doesn’t look like it.
Your comments are welcome!
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