Who are you responsible for?

You want to change the world but having a global impact is out of your reach at the moment and it bothers you? Think of your responsibilities for a moment.


In our world 1 average person is statistically responsible for exactly 1 person. This enables us to run our world as we do today on 23rd November 2016. (While you clearly can not take care of yourself when you’re born and will probably not be able to take care of yourself a bit before you die.)


In order to change the world you have to change yourself.
In order to solve other people’s problem you have to solve your own problems first.
Okay, cliche number 1 and 2 noted. But what do you have to do with all this?

You live your life. Okay. Visit your grandparents once in a while. Do your job. You are a member of society, no doubt. Maybe have a partner. Or even children. Do you do enough when it comes to your responsibilities?

As I have no idea who you are I can not know the answer. But do YOU know your answer?


In order to determine who can you be responsible for you have to get to know yourself. (cliche number 3 noted: sorry). Many people don’t excel in getting to know themselves. That is one of the reasons why people have hardships taking care of their own life: let alone helping others and make society a better place.

Now coming down to responsibilities you ultimately have 2 completely different categories.
A, social (towards others)
B, individual (towards yourself)

Important social activities involve raising, teaching and curing children, adolescents and adults too. Or cleaning the streets or accounting or most jobs. These are bigger or smaller cogwheels that run our present society. Famous people (from politicians through inventors to celebrities) would be ones that have a great impact on a social level.

The big responsibility towards yourself is feeling good and being happy, mainly. The happiest people are some that we might not ever hear about: as happiness in itself does not have any social impact (unlike when it’s shared though).

These two factors are connected but not in any very easily describable way (not directly or inversely proportional).



We know that we are social animals and individuals at the same time. Being a good father satisfies you while raising a well-achieving child is a great deed for society.
Peter is an incredibly happy individual but a complete introvert with no important position ever. Peggy is a great engineer/lawyer/physician/president but a most unhappy person. We are different.


Okay, we understand the picture a bit now.
But what am I trying to say with all this?
Bluntly: If you get to know yourself (individually and socially) you’ll get a relatively accurate answer in what you are able to achieve in the individual and social fields: your ultimate possible responsibilities.
Maybe this means growing up. Realizing that you won’t be a president or a CEO or a most famous writer. Realizing that you are a very good accountant or an okay mother or you have high empathy towards the poor or you’ve tried a lot of things but failed.

Arrow SIgns - Not My Fault Shifting Blame

If we consider that we (7,446 billion) all live “in the same house” we could consider that our responsibilities are equal to trying to make this “house” a better place. The only barrier is our power:
– we clearly wouldn’t judge those 1,5 billion people for not writing PhDs who are illiterate
– we clearly wouldn’t judge those over 700 million people who live under 1,9 USD / day for not giving charity
– we clearly wouldn’t judge you for not doing a positive change… …or should we?


The answer whether you’re doing your best can only be answered by one individual: you. To answer this question you need to be radically honest with yourself.

However there’s one thing you can definitely can not do. Think of yourself as
1, more intelligent and/or wealthier than the world average
2, think of yourself as someone who tries to make this world a better place
AND not doing more than an average guy.



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