Radical Honesty: Putting your life into perspective.
This was supposed to be the original title of this blog but then I found out that Brad Blanton PhD hijacked the idea and published a book with this title in 1994 when I was 5. So there’s a different title of the blog now.
Nevertheless I believe that honesty is the first and probably the most important thing of any change.
Where to start Honesty? Now that’s not an easy one.
Probably at the very essence of it:
– YOUR ACTIONS MATTER.
– NO ONE ELSE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR ACTIONS BUT YOU.
– JUST LIKE NO OTHER PEOPLE – YOU ARE CAN NOT BE SUPERIOR IN EVERYTHING: IT’S ALL UP TO YOU WHETHER YOU CAN SET UP YOUR LIFE TO TAKE CARE OF THINGS YOU ARE GOOD AT AND/OR DEEM IMPORTANT.
What does it mean in practice?
Get to know yourself!
The first question to ask is:
– Are you satisfied with your life now?
My answer has always been NO. Even though I’ve been a very happy person I’ve had an internal drive of doing and reaching more, and more and more. I’m not at the level of someone like Elon Musk (who is one of few people of this generation who dramatically changes the world) but compared to an Average Joe I’m doing A LOT.
Some of my friends’ answer is a constant “yes” or generally a “yes” when it comes to satisfaction. We are different.
It’s part of you getting to know yourself how much you want to try, work and change. I wouldn’t be happy working 100 hours every week – even if it was my passion and it would be for the best of humanity. I’m just not that guy.
How can you get to know yourself?
Well, that’s one of those projects that lasts through your whole life rather than being a one time achievement. My advice?
Focus on important things. No, I’m not going to tell you that important things are.
– God OR sport cars OR the newest iPhone OR friendships OR family OR love OR what-not.
But I’d love to give you a hand in discovering what are important things for you…
I can share a bit of my story. At age 18 I was interested in these things, mainly:
– life without money
– simplifying my life
– being resistant to physical discomfort
– being independent
– I was in love with a girl
– I had a strong wish for something big to happen.
At age 18 I moved away from home to our “little garden” that was a house in the outskirts of my hometown. I chose to move on the coldest night of the winter (app. -10 °C). The “little garden” had no heating or water. The budget of my first 1,5 month was app. 20 euro, altogether. I lost some 10 kgs. I had no electronic device apart from my mobile phone in the apartment. Smartphones didn’t exist yet: it was 2007. I used internet once daily at the public library.
When late spring came I moved back home. During the summer I went for a solo bicycle trip for 37 days, biking about 4500 kms.
When I was back much of the story ended with the girl I was in love with.
I was only 18 and I could put my life into a perspective that involved a conscious approach of physical pain, great independence, traveling alone and living alone and pursuing dreams I’d had. I was only 18 and I was more confident than many of my acquaintances will ever be.
WHAT ARE YOU INTERESTED IN!? WHAT IS IMPORTANT FOR YOU!?