My charity in 2017

The moment when I realized charity is a great thing when I heard of a poor village in Hungary where mostly Rroma (gypsies) live. Rather then living in poverty, crime and similar the new mayor decided to fight rural reality and create new products in the settlement of 352 people.
One day the people of Cserdi bought agricultural products to Budapest and gave them to the homeless. Their slogan was: We’ve grown it for You – we didn’t steal it from You.
I thought – if these guys work hard every day to fight their own poverty and they make enough to help people in Budapest – who am I not to have enough to give!?
(Here are couple other thoughts of mine about ways to use / need of money.)

Mayor of the village of Cserdi, Hungary

So keeping up with the promise I made when I began to run this blog I’m giving at least 10% of my income for charity this year.

I tried to choose the organisations carefully.
Global organisations are out because I’m not (yet?) a global player.
Similarly, most large Hungarian organisations are out because I don’t think my contribution counts a lot – and I hate seeing large receptions with fancy snacks and meals in fancy hotels and similar. Not from my money.
So I chose primarily smaller organisations and I commit myself to get familiar with all of them (that I don’t know yet) personally this year.

So I give money in 2017 to
A, fight corruption and create a more functional democracy in Hungary:
Direkt 36 – independent press (English website available)
Átlátszó – independent press
Kettős Mérce  – independent press
Slejm  – political activist
K-Monitor – against corruption (English website available)

B, help the less fortunate in rural Hungary
Dr Ámbédkar iskola – education (English website available)
bffd – creating working opportunities (English website available)
Foncsorozó Egyesület – helping during everyday life and festivities to a small, mainly Rroma (gypsy) village

C, help homeless and poor in Budapest
Budapest Bike Maffia – food support for homeless and poor and other programs (English website available)
Menhely Alapítvány – create shelter for the homeless (English website available)

[D, my favourite blog
Wait But Why – creating incredible quality content (English website available)]

Do you have some extra money? I urge you to give for organisations too!
Do you have some extra time? I encourage you to volunteer for organisations too!


Apart from financial support I’ll keep volunteering and teach about European Union in Hungarian high schools; be active in managing parts of the FreeInterrail project and to organize trips for mainly university students without much chance of financial benefit.

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How many countries are you going to visit before you die?

First of all let us shed light to a well-known but often overlooked fact: you are going to die. (given that there is no revolutionary breakthrough in science)

Then, before you could say: hey, it’s so far away so let’s not think about it it shouldn’t be a surprise that it’s gonna come somewhere between 75 and 85 years of age.

Believing that your life is eternal and is never gonna end helps you ignoring death but makes it difficult for you to plan very far ahead.

So let’s try to make a rough outline on one activity in your life: travel.




This article is about visiting a number of countries. We are aware this is not a perfect way to describe traveling. Visiting the all the 50 States of the United States through 20 time 2 week long travels is not the same as spending a weekend in New York, clearly.
To counteract this we’ll talk about countries visited and days traveled too.

This whole article is like using a couple numbers to get to know your future and possible future travels.


So let’s get down to business. Here’s our 4-step guide:

1, How many days have you traveled* in the last 5 years (2012-2016)?
How many countries have you visited during this time?
Example: 40 days, 5 countries

*it’s not as easy to define traveling as one would think so:
– “We lived in Poland… …for 2 weeks” OR
– “we’ve been traveling for 10 months out of which we were teaching English for 9 in Buenos Aires”

2, Check from the average life-expectancy of your country how long will you live and see how long you have.
Example: 45 years to go
3, Do the Math.
Example: I’m going to travel 200 days in 45 countries in the rest of my life.

4, Are you content with traveling this much in your life?
If yes: congratulations! 🙂
If not: make a plan which countries you’d like to see in your life (this list helps). Keep in mind: “I want to see them all!” hardly means more than “I want all the toys from the shop”.
Think a moment whether visiting all those countries fits into the plan of your life. If not, then choose:
– is it more important to keep your current lifestyle than travel more OR
– is it more important to travel more than to keep your current lifestlye


If the second one is your choice, then consider:
– slight changes in your lifestyle: more vacations, a longer break between 2 jobs, using weekends for traveling (this last one isn’t for Aussies, sorry)
– big change in your lifestyle: after saving up a bit of money quitting and traveling for a couple months

– go on a 4 year long honeymoon around the world by bicycle

quit your job and start travelling professionally


Don’t forget though: it’s never the achievements that matter. Telling your friends that you’ve been to 100 countries is like telling that you’ve had sex with 100 different partners:
while it sounds cool (to some) it doesn’t mean it makes you happy or a better person.
Some are happy with 1 partner in their life. Some never have enough.
Probably you’re somewhere in between. But it is you who has to know where he is standing.

Why I've Never Traveled Outside of the U.S.

We hope this articles gives a good idea about traveling to new countries in the rest of your life. If traveling is not your cup of tea, try to think of any other long-term achievement in a similar way. A great article here for example covers how many times one will swim in the ocean, how many Superbowls will there be to watch and how many day you’ll spend with your parents.




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What you have VS. what you don’t have

So I was answering this friend, good news first:
– Yeah, professionally this has been my best year but…
– That’s great! -he interrupted me quickly.

He was right.
I ate a kind of tasty meal for lunch today. That’s great.
I have a family to stand behind me. Great!
I have great friends. Yeah!
I feel good most of the time. Huhh!
I have goals. Amazing!
I’m creatively expressing myself at this moment. That’s all super!

this is a cool approach!

My general approach in life has been “What is it that I don’t have? How can I have it?” I though the same way about others too: he doesn’t have a girlfriend; she doesn’t have children; they don’t have a car, etc.

But a much more rewarding and healthy approach is he has great friends;  she takes care of her parents; they love to bike, etc. And first and foremost: I’ve just had a good lunch, have a fine family, great friends, etc.
Once I’d like to watch the evening news that say: today nothing really bloody and horrible happened. Today nothing happened that threatens global security. Look at these hard working people, these NGOs, these activists, these government officials, these psychologists, teachers, doctors, etc.: they’re all working very hard to create a better world and today’s dedicated to them!
But I know it’s not the evil media that don’t give us these positive news. It’s us who want to see modern Gladiator games every night. But you know what?
You can (probably!) be better than this.


It’s very difficult to keep a clear mind and firmly say: I have enough – when every medium, shop, advertisement, the whole system – and basic human nature (!) tries to make us believe that we need more. But then, do we really need that much?

I need credit so I can buy the newest iPhone so my friends will say I’m cool!? (pronagger)

Not long ago I visited Jordan with a friend and we spent the first night in the Wadi Rum desert. Those guys we met at the tent-camp seemed to have little.
As someone traveling a lot and having a lot of personal belongings I could have felt pity for them:
– None of the guys there have ever left Jordan
– I’m not sure any of them finished high school
– I doubt they had their own shower.
– Money seemed to hold little importance and they couldn’t have too much of it. They were even lazy to bargain most of the time.
– One of them proudly explained that he had thrown away his last mobile phone 1,5 years ago so he could concentrate on the moment and not be somewhere else in his mind.
– come’on: they lived in the middle of a desert!

While we heard no preaching from them how to live one’s life or how to do good deeds we were surprised to see that they gave shelter to a Syrian refugee family and shared their food and time with us.
While they lacked a lot that makes me happy they had feelings I’ll never have: an extremely strong feel for their community, gratefulness for simple pleasures like spending time together, helping each other out and seemingly a sense of life taken from religious believes and a strong system built around it.
They had very little of what’s important to me. And I had practically nothing of what’s important to them.


Wadi Rum, Jordan: having a shisha together at sunset

What can I say? I’ll never again think that these Bedouin guys’ lives are so much less than mine. It’s just completely, fundamentally different…

I don’t know what keeps those guys moving and I even know nothing of what keeps you going.
You might or might not have a lot at the moment that matters for you: romantic love, unconditional love, friends, happiness, realistic possibilities or the model tank you’ve always wanted.

the model tank you’ve always wanted (bigscalemodels)

What is crucial to understand is that having enough happens in your mind. You can not have enough just by owning more and more and more.

And having everything?
Life is unfair to every individual. Even the most successful might not have a loving family or any feel for the community or conscience or free time or perfect health or…
Life is unfair and you can spend your time dwelling on how little you have or learn to respect and be happy with what you can have.





You can’t (and shouldn’t) always get what you want.
Happiness is not about having the most but making the most of it, really…
2016 is coming to an end. I’m very grateful for this year.



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How to solve your most serious issues?

In war and love (and in solving your serious issues) all is fair.

This could easily become a very stupid post about having a super-solution for any problem you might have.
But this post is about very few issues only: the most serious ones. Most of your problems are easy-peasy first world problems that can be solved either in one step (Ruthlessly execute right now! e.g. take the trashes down!) or in 6 or 7 single steps that you can learn from some articles here, here or here.


They go down to something like this:
1. Identify your problem
2, Accept it / Face it
3, Ask for help
4, Resolve
5, Move on
6, Remember the lessons learned
7, Be ready for other problems
And what-not.

And this is how I will solve some of my issues today:
– taking the trashes down
– read and answer some emails
– finding a suitable movie for tonight
– designing the poster for the next trip I’m advertising
and similar.


While there are the bigger, more constant issues that define our lives that are very-very difficult to handle. They are as important as anything can be in life.
You are not able to face it. You can not deal with it. External help doesn’t help. It seems to have an effect on your identity. It slowly defines your way of thinking and actions.
1, you choose to accept that these problems will play and incredibly huge part in your life


Might sound a bit silly but it actually is a way that really works.
Running away = changing ourselves = travel and live differently = think outside of the box is a very difficult but efficient way to deal with a real, constant problem that has outgrown you.

I’ve been in a relationship for 7 years. Those who’ve been there and done that know that it’s not always easy. At a time when things didn’t look too good I explained my issues to a friend and added at the end: “But I know these are all first world problems.” She asked back: “But this is your life! How can you say that?”
I can say and mean this by having some perspective. This is the greatest benefit of all my time, energy and money invested in over 500 days of private traveling in life. It goes down to the deep realization of this:

My world views in 1995 and now (planet drawing’s from santabanta)

So my ultimate advice is this:
You have a radical problem? Have a radical solution for it!

Run away, put your life in perspective and when you did, do come back and make a positive change.
We don’t like to think about it but we all are completely replaceable. Temporarily even more replaceable. Yes. Absolutely.

The ultimate solution? If you have no way to face your problem, put it in a perspective.
Do it in a far away place where you know no one. Where you have no idea of the culture, traditions and shit. Put your life and problem into a perspective in Southern Laos, Central Bolivia, rural Morocco or North-East Hungary.


There might be problems outgrowing you right now. I have one right now too. Solving these issues by putting them into perspective make us more effective people.
The first huge issue that outgrew you might have been trying to initiate a conversation with your first love. The ones to come might include founding a business or being a good parent or running a Marathon.

We are not here (waitbutwhy)
We are here (waitbutwhy)

Getting stuck at a certain phase of life is something we’ll all have to deal with – eventually. But this could be 10, 30 or even 50 or 60 or 70 years from now. A lot of time. My 89 year old grandma’s just started to actively improve her English!
You know, the better we get to know ourselves, the more knowledge we gather the more powerful we’ll be to make the changes we long for.

Give it a try. Run away from your huge problems and return with a new point of view.
People that matter will miss you and wait for you. People that don’t matter will forget about you.
Give it a try!


What is your mission?

Mission: an important goal or purpose that is accompanied by strong conviction; a calling or vocation.

But what gives us a mission that we can really live together with?
We want our lives to be worthwhile. This does not mean we need to achieve ‘great feats’ or become world famous. We just need to feel in place and do the right thing surrounded by the right people. It’s about finding out our mission.”


“Mission” sounds like something elevated, bright and world-changing. In my interpretation missions, just like human needs can either be deficit- or growth-based.

An example from my life is the first trip I’ve set out for: I had a mission in 2007: to reach the Baltic Sea from Hungary by bicycle (~1100 kms). Alone on the bike trip I was very busy riding over 100kms daily, finding free places to sleep, repairing the bike occasionally, staying dry and get food.
Having the rain waking you up next to the road in pitch dark will give you a very clear mission: find the closest dry spot where you can continue sleeping. Such fundamental missions take some time from all our lives: having food, water, sex, sleep, etc. But while in some environments this is the mission of life, in others this is more like a side-track or a “mission already completed” when you wake up daily in the morning.
Whenever I hear about “since my child’s born my life has a sense” I always think of this deficit-based mission: I guess having your child crying in pitch dark you don’t have a choice either.


Completing the bike trip and being back home found me in a new, difficult situation: there were no more kms to bike every day, there was a fridge full of stuff and the most I “had to” do was attending history classes at the university. All my deficit-based missions were solved at once. So there I was in need of finding growth-based missions.
I read once that many parents fall into depression when their children leave home. I can understand them completely.


So the question is: how do you find growth-based missions?
The best way to find your, individual mission is to try to let go all external advice (except this one, of course!).
Think of what you’d like to do when you are alone in a white room with unlimited power.
1, order the best food of the world
2, some extra caviar too
3, sleep for a week and a half
4, make a 16some with some good-looking porn stars
5, spend more time with your friends and family
6, try all the drugs
7, turn back time so you don’t feel guilt after all this
… OKAY. You are after all these things that you always wanted to try but you didn’t for some reason. These are deficit-based needs. What’s with your growth needs now?
What do you think of, wish, wanna do when you are alone and no one bothers you?
For me it is:
1, I love to think and philosophize on the connection between individual and society
2, I love to take in a lot of art: books, movies, paintings, architecture, etc.

Take a moment to think about it. Write it down!



Stop scrolling!



I said take a moment!



Have you written it down?



Don’t just scroll down!



Have you written it down?



Otherwise you can not read the rest!



These points are the ones where you can start putting together your mission. If you love building things try being and architect, construction worker or something on this line. After build a new Taj Mahal to your love or build a homeless shelter or whatever suits your way of thinking, mentality and habit.


The difficult thing about having YOUR OWN MISSION is that every motivated person, institution and organisation has plans with you. Shortly: everybody knows what’s best for you. More on this here.
The Catholic church would like you to act like they want and that you give them money.
Your government would like you to obey the laws and pay a lot of taxes.
[… ]
I would like you to be a more independent thinker that gets to have his own mission.

So of course I have no idea what is your mission.
But I can say a couple words about mine.
I would like to self-develop and keep learning life-long so I can more effectively change the world.
I would like to give back because I’ve received so much more than most.
I would like all people to understand that human beings they are valuable and their actions matter. And that all people do have chances even when it doesn’t look like it.


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3 things we love about shopping

What is it that we exactly feel when we pop a tag: buy a piece of cloth or for that instance a new watch, phone, car, apartment or yacht?

1, we feel joy of practical growth: now I won’t be cold anymore; I’ll always know the exact time, I can check my emails quickly any time, I can get from A to B faster, etc.
2, we feel that our status in society has grown: my neighbours and people passing by on the streets are going to envy me for what I have.
3, we feel joy for being able to express ourselves: with these new clothes and gadgets I’m so much more “me” than before…
/DISCLAIMER: I’m not a shopper so maybe I just don’t get the whole idea.
If someone can tell me that these joys are really important in life, I’ll be very happy to listen./

But what I believe in is that from the above-mentioned 3 best things only 1 makes sense: practical growth. I, for instance, have a car and I’m happy to have a car: it makes my life much easier when I need it. But I don’t have or need a very good looking or expensive car.
– You are NOT your cloths, watch, phone, car, apartment or yacht. Self-expression through materialistic goods is shallow to say the least.
– You don’t need more than 2 (maybe 3) coats. Buying your 5th coat gives you the feeling of an achievement. It’s an existing but short and non-important joy for which you might have spent some of your most important assets: your time and your money.
It’s possible to spend your money better:
  – 1, you can buy experiences rather than material goods. Cliché but it’s basically true: Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.
  – 2, you can help others. Your next 500 euro phone you don’t need can be the opportunity of a lifetime for someone in your very vicinity…


3 things we love about shopping? See above.

2 things we could love about spending?
– Travel & other experiences rather than materially self-express
– Help others. You have so much. You must be able to spare a at least a tiny bit for starters…


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How can I change the world the most?

When it comes to “changing a world” many think about something fictional, almost mystical: situations reserved for movie stars and politicians that come very rarely – if ever in their lives.


However changing the world does not mainly materialize by dragging a drowning man out of the water once in your life, killing an evil dictator once or changing the health care system of the United States.
Changing the world is nothing more complicated than anything in our daily lives and we do it pretty much constantly by our actions.

So we do change the world every day. We click on websites, buy new products, vote, talk, breathe, have rest, read certain news, watch certain movies, etc.


Now thinking a bit of all this we might feel really small. A single individual that is able to understand the size of the global world. Or the solar system. Or the universe. But let’s stay on Earth.
Most of us are not going to be mentioned on pages of elementary school history books. We are not presidents, CEOs, world leaders or global game changers.

Rather, we live more “normal” lives that are entangled with present trends, fashion, news, food, TV, new gadgets, partner, friends and children.

So here you stand with your life. You are a drop in the ocean of 7,47 billion. As long as you act like most around, you change the world by standing up for mediocrity: the way humanity has survived for a couple hundred thousand years.


You might want to be better than mediocre, stand up for something and become a pebble stone or even a rock – changing the course of other the drops in the ocean.

To become a rock you need to get independent and stand very strong. You need to give up many aspects of normal life: clicking on random websites, watching TV, read unimportant news, etc. You have to prioritize and sacrifice a lot that you could do so that you become successful in one thing.


Again, this isn’t a fictional situation. This is something that helps you to get a grip on the million ways different ways of life. Among others they are called:
– elementary school
– work
– high school
– university
– military training
– PhD
– love
– hobby, etc.

If you’d like to have a real big change in the world do this:
Learn and work hard.

That’s all it takes. And if your grandchildren will not read about you on pages of history books, be very grateful for when you lived: only emergencies need heroes…


How much money do you need?

We are often told (at least indirectly) that money is something that should never be enough for us.
In one way it is true: money is not banknotes and coins or gold or something completely useless.
Rather money is “a medium that can be exchanged for goods and services and is used as a measure of their values on the market […]
Simply: money is everything you can buy for money.

And man – can you buy things for money!?


When it comes to social impact money is the key.
You want to feed the homeless? Money is a way.
You want to educate children in Africa? Yes, money will set up a school there.
You want to lobby even for higher tax for the rich? Money will get you closer.
You want to stay home and think things through? It goes so much easier with money.
You wanna be US President? You’ll need a lot of MONEY.
Okay. I guess you got it. Power and the money, money and the power – Minute after minute, hour after hour



But one doesn’t need a PhD in social sciences to realize that most of us don’t struggle all our lives to have bigger and better social impact. When it comes to personal happiness, money is less important than most believe in the Western world.
I’m completely sure in only few things in life. This is one of them.
People overrate money – and things they manage to buy for money.
People tend to believe that it’s only a lot money that can buy them things that will help to reach higher levels of human existence.




But most people forget how simple human beings are and how humbly we have led our lives in the last couple hundred thousand years.
All we have is deficiency needs:
– physiological: eating, sex for procreation, sleeping, water, shelter, etc.
– safety: health, family, social stability, etc.
– love and belonging: friendship, family, sexual intimacy, etc.
– self esteem: confidence, achievement, respect of others

And growth needs:
– self actualization: spontaneity, creativity, problem solving, etc.



Does money help achieving these goals?
I guess there’s no big surprise when I say yes. You get a better car so you’ll not have to take the public transport you hate and you save up some time for yourself. You have a home close to the center so you don’t need to commute. You have money so you can call the plumber when he’s needed.
No one needs unlimited money for himself.
Not even the richest possible person on Earth needs more than 1 set of clothes at a time.
Not even the richest possible person in the world can drive more than 1 car at a time.
Not even the richest possible person can build more meaningful personal relationships than you do.
Not even the richest possible person’s son can be happier than I was when this picture was taken:



So let’s take the next step. I have 2 simple questions.
The first one goes like this: do you want to make a type of social change that requires a lot of money?
– If yes then you’re one of the most conscious people I’ve ever met: you try hard to earn a lot of money and when you manage you use it to give back and better society. I’m amazed! You are one of very few. Drop me an email: I hope to get in touch!

And the second is: if your goal is personal happiness WHY WOULD YOU NEED SO MUCH MONEY!?
Angus Deaton, US Nobel-award winner economist claims that making more than 75.000 USD / year does not make one happier. No wonder that this (in 2008) was almost 3 times the average income of a US citizen as other studies show that rather than an absolute income happiness is more linked to being richer than your neighbour. This study claims: money may not buy you love but it may be enough to purchase status — and a little bit of happiness.

Do you REALLY need greener grass than Bill!? (46lawn)

I’m a radical thinker but not as radical to say that a lot of money doesn’t make life a lot easier – and eventually somewhat happier.
What I’m trying to say is something like:
– If you want to play soccer well – so you’ll focus on your training and on practicing. You need shoes to play soccer: so you’ll try to buy a new one: but the shoes won’t make you a good player.
– If you want to be happy – then you won’t spend 12 hours a day working hard for money but you’ll make sure you earn enough and you’ll focus on getting to know yourself and on the things that make you happy.
You can play soccer without shoes or be happy without money but it’s an extra challenge for most.

Soccer without shoes, happiness without money

Since I’ve moved away from home I had months where my spending didn’t go over 1 euro / day. And had months where (on travelling + furniture +what-not) I’d spend a couple thousand euros. I can not tell an exact amount I need a month but I know that I don’t compare myself to my neighbours or movie stars or Donald Trump. I have no issues with money: it has become a fiction in my personal life and I try to use money to make a positive change in society (so far to not much avail though).
The key is to know what you want. For me it’s consciousness and wisdom.

Some of us have cheaper while some of us have more expensive hobbies, lifestyle, even identity. Diversity is great: we are all so different. But hey: do YOU know what you want? Is it money you want? If not – be satisfied with less and concentrate on your real goals!
Don’t forget: it’s not the shoes that make a soccer player great!


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10+1 best things to do in your free time

It always brings a certain lenient smile to my face when people tell me “I’d love to do that but I don’t have time.
When preparing to graduate from high school the girl I wanted to be with often told me “I can’t stay longer – I have to learn.
She was genuinely concerned and stressed about the big, important upcoming exams. After graduation she admitted that she never, not even once sat down to learn. But still, she had no time for me (or for other friends). Some spend most of their life like this: can you imagine?


So we have duties like work, getting to work, taking care of our family and what-not: and the rest of our time we call “free time”. This is the time that we are free to do what we want. Too much of it usually makes you bored, too little of it makes you feel too busy.

When you dig deeper you realize that all of our life is “free time”: because we decide how we spend every second of it. Really. But more philosophy another time in another article.

So let’s get down to the ideas.

1, Turn off your TV

I’m serious. Have you seen anything recently worth all your time spent in front of the TV? If not, give it up. I did it when I was 15. Haven’t watched TV since and haven’t had a TV either. Do you think I miss out? I’ve never felt so and no one ever told me so.


2, Clean out your inbox

How many unread messages do you have? Have zero.
The ones you haven’t answered? Answer them! You have free time to do that!



3, Move yourself

Run, go to the gym, go out for a walk, etc.. You never have time to do that? 10 minutes at home every day is enough for some new excercises. It’s your free time, hey!


4, Read

Almost all sucessful people read.
You don’t know where to start and you don’t have books to read? Visit your local library! – if you can not find anything interesting on the shelves, ask the personnel!


5, Watch good movies

For many, movies are just a form of entertainment while films have become one of the main sources of information. Some movies are easily as impactful as books. You don’t know which are best ones? IMDb, the world’s largest movie database put together a list of the 250 movies based on user reviews. Having watched them all here are my recommendations from the list.


6, Make life goals and write them down

Take 10 minutes of your time to set up where you’d like to be in 5 years. Completing achievements is an incredibly grateful thing to have.
A 5-year-plan sounds a bit too much? Do it in your own pace. Get some inspiration from 101 goals in 1001 days!


7, If your city has a free tour, join in!

The same applies to museums, zoos.
It’s incredible how little you know about your home-town/city, believe me!


8, Spend quality time with friends and family.

Never have enough time for this important part of life but you have time for silly games on your phone? Nah, come on!


9, Introspect (if you are in extrovert) / Meet people (if you are in introvert)

If you feel you’ve spent a bit too much with others, you keep repeating or listening to the same stories, give it consciously a bit of time to contemplate over your life.
If you feel however that you haven’t spent any time with peers lately do go out and get into a conversation with someone new: a neighbour, a random old lady or a homeless will do.


10, Nostalgia

Absolutely no brain to do anything? Look at old pictures!
It’ll probably make you feel better, a bit sentimental and will help to put your life in a better perspective by refreshing forgotten memories.


10+1, You aim higher?

Then ACTIVELY PARTICIPATE: write/journal, blog, take photos, volunteer (even for a single occasion!), paint, draw, play music, sing, learn the basics of a new topic (let it be microeconomics or basics of philosophy: do it on Coursera, Khan Academy or edX for free!), learn a new language, etc.

Hands up

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What do YOU want to do with me?

Some of them want to use you, some of them want to get used by you, some of them want to abuse you, some of them want to be abused… …sweet dreams are made of this” Do you all know the song? Eurythmics – Sweet dreams it is.

Other than using and abusing some of them have clear views what they’d like to do with us:

1, These guys want to sell us insurances:


2, This guy wants us to give him some money:

3, These guys want us to vote for them


4, The guys that made this ad want us to buy Kit-Kats

5, I’m writing this article because I want you to read it

6, What do you want from us?!


We humans are very complicated creatures when it comes to the whole mechanism of thinking and decision-making but we are relatively easy to describe when it comes to our actions: and action is the key to all social activities that matter for the outer world.

Watch this: Jill never leaves her home and doesn’t buy, give or read. All the guys mentioned above will not care a bit whether Jill is the happiest or the saddest person alive on Earth (or whether she’s dead or alive) – she’s just not important for us.
We’re sorry, Jill…



So here we in a world in the middle of endless opportunities where wanting something badly seems full of flaws but without wanting something badly you won’t arrive anywhere.

So here comes the SECRET:
to solve the Rubik’s cube successfully you’ll need a couple hours
to finish kindergarten you needed a couple years
– to be a successful bodybuilder you need to go to the gym for many long years
– to be a successful politician you’ll probably need a life-long career
– to be a successful YOU who knows what he WANTs – how long do you think you need?

Are you one of those prodigy kids that knew what they wanted at age 3 or 5 or 8?


Unlikely. I’d risk that way over 99% of us weren’t child prodigies. So if you ever want to get to know what you really want to do: TAKE YOUR TIME!
As it’s stated about self-improvement in this great article “The industries that do often focus on the human condition—philosophy, psychology, art, literature, self-help, etc.—lie more on the periphery, with their work often fragmented from each other. All of this sets up a world that makes it hard to treat internal growth as anything other than a hobby, an extra-curricular, icing on the life cake.
You want to get to know what you’d like?
BE AN EXPERT OF YOURSELF: it’s no one else’s but your interest that you answer the big questions of your life. Our life’s not about salvation, rebirth or career but using the resources we’ve got here and now (those 5; 22; 37; 72 or 91 years you have) to make the most out of it and to shape our environment.


What works for me is writing. Is traveling. Is contemplating. Is learning languages. Is trying not to be afraid. Is strongly dividing important and non-important. Is focusing. Is watching great movies, reading amazing books, meeting with people from whom I can learn.

I don’t know what works for you. Do you know? Will you get to know?



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